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New Linguistics of Romance Fraud Booklet

Category: General

Thames Valley Police

A new romance fraud e-booklet has been developed by Thames Valley Police’s Economic Crime Unit alongside Dr Elisabeth Carter, Senior Lecturer in Criminology and Forensic Linguist at the University of Roehampton.

What is a romance fraud?

Romance frauds happen when the victim thinks they’ve met the perfect partner through an online dating website or app, but the other person is using a fake profile to form a relationship with them. They’re using the site to gain the victim’s trust and ask them for money or enough personal information to steal their identity.

How does it happen?

Romance fraudsters are masters of manipulation and will go to great lengths to create a false reality in which an individual feels that they are making reasonable and rational decisions.

The challenge for many family and friends of romance fraud victims is being able to disrupt the false reality created to enable the victim to see the situation for what it really is – a fraud.


This booklet has been designed to demonstrate the clever tactics used by romance fraudsters with a view to empowering the knowledge of our communities.

It also dispels the myths of shame and embarrassment often associated with this crime by highlighting the link to coercive control.

You can access the booklet by visiting the Thames Valley Police website.

Detective Inspector Duncan Wynn of Thames Valley Police’s Economic Crime Unit said: “Romance fraud can have a catastrophic impact, from the emotional devastation to the financial losses. We have worked with Dr Carter, a forensic linguistics and criminology expert, to raise awareness of the manipulative tactics that romance fraudsters use. It’s so important that if you feel you have fallen victim to a romance fraudster that you seek help by reaching out to Action Fraud or Victims First if you’re in Oxfordshire, Berkshire or Buckinghamshire. If you live outside of the Thames Valley, you can contact Victim Support.”

Dr Elisabeth Carter, Senior Lecturer in Criminology and Forensic Linguist at the University of Roehampton said: “Romance fraudsters are masters of disguise and deception, and this publication shines a light on the tactics they can use, so you can keep yourself and your loved ones safe. It provides important information about the range of different ways fraudsters will attempt to groom, manipulate, and persuade individuals into a position where they feel compelled to send money. If you are at all doubtful about a relationship you are in or a relationship someone you know is in, please help stop fraud in its tracks and seek advice from Action Fraud.”

To view Dr Carter’s complete academic paper that inspired the booklet, please visit